The Alchemy of Giving and Receiving

December 11, 2009

Today, I’m going to share some wisdom on how to have a healthy balanced love and sex life,  one that embraces the ability to receive as well as to give.  It will include an exercise that allows you and your lover or a trusted friend to practice this subtle art.  These wise words and the [...]

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Passionate Play

November 28, 2009

Ah December!  A time to connect with our playful spirits, exchange gifts, delight in sparking lights, dance with our favorite “nutcracker” , sing with a host of angels,  and cozy up to a warm hearth.
Of course there are many ways to bring imagination and play into your love life.  But since I specialize in “pillow [...]

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Erotic Appreciation

November 14, 2009

With Thanksgiving drawing near, I believe this would be a good time to discuss the role of gratitude, validation and appreciation in the art of lovemaking.
Sadly, I’ve found that this is one of the most neglected forms of erotic expression, yet one that many of us yearn for. In the workshops I’ve presented and attended [...]

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The Subtlety and Variety of Erotic Talk

October 29, 2009

Many people initially think of “talking dirty” when they hear the words “erotic talk”.   But as I explain in my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words (Random House),  the phrase means so much more than that.
Certainly at well-timed moments, lusty, sexy words and [...]

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Sacred Sexuality

October 22, 2009

For the first time in its 30-year history, San Francisco’s famous Exotic Erotic Expo and Ball is extending its vista to include the more tender, sacred aspects of sensual connection.
As a strong advocate of sexual communion that involves the tender and vulnerable, as well as the wild and earthy, I’m happy to say that I [...]

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Erotic Talk: Overcoming Fear and Shyness

October 5, 2009

In the classes and workshops I’ve given over the years,  the most common question I’m asked is:
“Can you give me some ideas on how I can get over my self-consciousness about using erotic talk with my partner?”
My answer is an emphatic yes!  And in a moment I’ll give you several tips on how to do [...]

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Erotic Empathy

September 24, 2009

Friday, October 2nd is International Day for Empathic Action
It is a day in which  people  in every state, in every country, on every continent,  will gather in empathic listening, connecting, and action so that we may see all beings integrate suffering to become free, fully alive, and resolve differences peacefully.
In honor of that occasion I’ve [...]

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Your Daily Verbal Aphrodisiac

September 24, 2009

Here are two samples of the sensual suggestions and
erotic inspirations included in my manual “Your Daily Verbal Aphrodisiac”
1. In the form of erotic questioning: “Baby, where on your body would you like me to trace the words “I love you”? (You might then add) “And would you like me to use my fingers, [...]

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Verbal Charisma

September 24, 2009

A tip from my dating manual:

VERBAL CHARISMA: ©:
This little manual gives specific examples of how to use words to attract a lover and pave the way to a passionate connection.  Here’s a tidbit:
(For a free copy of the entire manual, simply fill in the box on the right with your name and email [...]

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Words Are Wonderful Aphrodisiacs

September 24, 2009

Erotic Talk or love talk is any form of verbal communication that creates a sense of romance, passion, intimacy, bonding or connection between partners. To paraphrase the opening paragraph of my book,

The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words” (Random House).
“Words are wonderful aphrodisiacs.  With words you [...]

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