A Man’s Heart Laid Bare

by bonnie on May 15, 2011

I’d like to share an amazing poem with you by Bruce Boehlen, co-founder of The Mankind Project.

In it, he expresses  vulnerability, transparency  and the ability to hold the pain in his heart with compassion and care.

I found it extremely moving.   What’s more, I believe that a man so willing to embrace and express these tender aspects of his full humanity is extremely attractive to women of depth and substance. In fact,  when this kind of open revelation occurs between lovers,  it  helps to bring true intimacy and depthful connection to a relationship.

For further information on how to bring nurturing presence to yourself and your partner and to express your feelings, desires, wants and needs in ways that build intimacy check out my recent blogs:

Helping Your Lover Regain Self-Worth

Erotic Empathy

Hypnosis for Lovers: Intensifying Intimacy and Sensuality

The Words of the Lesson

by Bruce Boehlen

Now hear my words… these are the words of the lesson.
I am a man.
I am a wounded man.
Oh god, I am a deeply wounded man.

And in my fear and my pain and my fatigue
I have covered my wounds with a blanket of lies and illusions.
For I would feel them no more. For I would see them no more.

And these are the words of the lesson…
I am a man. And when I would reach out to women,
When I would walk among them and give them my love and take their loving for me…
My wounds rise up between me and them and turn me back against myself.
No more, not again.

I am a man.
And when I would reach out to a powerful love that the two of us might come together
and go to a place where no one goes alone,
My wounds rise up between my love and I and turn me back against myself…
No more, my oath, not again.

And these are the words of the lesson…
I am a man. And I shall rip the blanket of lies and illusion and peel it back,
I shall go down in the shadow among my wounds
And I will fight for my right to decide.
I will fight for my right to live.

And these are the words of the lesson…
I am a man.
And I shall puncture a hole in the blanket of lies and illusion
And I shall take a soft hand and go down among my wounds
And I will rub the salve of compassion and understanding into those old wounds
that they might have a moment to heal…
that they might have a moment to close…

And these are the words of the lesson…
I am a man.
And I shall own my own wounds and all the power therein.
And I shall reach out to men and walk amonth them.
I shall give them my loving and I shall take their loving for me.
And surely I will do it.

I am a man
And I shall take my wounds and the power therein.
And I shall make a safe place for children to tarry a moment.
I will show them the wounds and the life that made them,
That they might understand before they do their own living.
And surely I will do it.

I am a man.
And I shall take up my wounds and all the power therein.
And I shall reach out to a powerful love.
And we will share our wounds and we shall come together.
And with our power we will go where no one goes alone, the two of us.
And surely I will do it.

And these are the words of the lesson.
I am a man.
I am a wounded man.
I am a deeply wounded man.
I own my wounds and all the power therein belongs to me to do with as I wish, to do my bidding.
And the world shall yet know the power of my loving…the power of my wounds.
And surely I will do it.

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