Ever wish you had a sexier voice – one that is deep, rich and mellow? Well, guess what? Even if you think your voice is thin, flat, or squeaky, there is much you can do to make it more sexually appealing. In a moment I’ll give you some simple exercises to do just that.
Meanwhile, if you’re confident in your sultry, dulcet tones, and have no need to improve the sound of your voice, then scroll down past these exercises and check out our “Sexy Voice Survey”
Meanwhile, for those of you who do wish to sensualize the way you sound when you speak, here are a couple of simple exercises:
1. LOWER YOUR PITCH A more deeply pitched voice usually signals to the listener that the speaker is relaxed, comfortable, connected to his/her body, and sexually assured. Conversely, a more highly pitched voice often suggests that the speaker is apprehensive, disconnected from his/her body and sexually insecure. So, if you’d like to deepen your voice try the following exercises from my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk
Exercise: Humming: Hum a musical scale in descending order (from high to low). Keep the hum sound resonating in the facial or vocal “mask” the area around your nose and upper lip. (This helps to maximize voice quality.) Now, hum a scale in descending order, again, but this time focus on your body. As you go down the scale you will feel some of the vibrations move from your head area into your chest. When that starts to happen, stop and notice the pitch you are humming on. Begin to speak on that pitch, as if you were singing a song with one repetitive note. Use that as your reference note, and see if you can now talk naturally, and with expression, from this new
lowered starting pitch in your voice.
2. CREATE RESONANCE A resonant voice is one that is rich in overtones. It’s the kind of full bodied sound you often hear in radio and TV announcers. The vibrations in a resonant voice can actually create a calming, relaxing effect in the listener. Combined with appropriate pitch and expression, such a voice can also elicit sensual feelings in those who hear it. The magic ingredient in creating a resonant sound is vocal placement or focus. This means speaking in such a manner that the sound of your voice is amplified into the vocal mask. (See the exercise above for a description of the mask.) Here’s an exercise to help place your voice in that resonating area:
Exercise: Vibrating consonants: To activate the resonators in the mask, sing the word “bumble bee” up and down the scale. Stress the consonants “b” and “m” and keep the “u” vowel short. If you do this properly, it should tickle your lips! If you don’t like to sing or have trouble maintaining pitch, then can simply repeat “bumble bee’ by starting in your lower register (without worrying about pitch), then going to your middle register and then your mid-high range. (Don’t strain your voice by going uncomfortably high.) A variation: Instead of “bumble bee”, you can use more sensual expressions like “be my baby” or “come to me”. Just make sure you emphasize the consonants and keep the vowels short.
You’ll find many more exercises on creating a sensual voice in The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words.
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SEXY VOICE SURVEY
And while we’re on the topic of sensual voices – and to celebrate Valentine’s Day – I’ve decided to conduct a Sexy Voice Survey:
What celebrities – actors/singers/newscasters/hosts from stage, screen, radio and television – male and female - do you think have the sexiest voices?
To cast your vote: Please fill out or copy and paste the form below and send it to me by February 7th to: wordsforlovers@gmail.com
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Survey: Sexy Voices (list no more than 3 in each category)
Men under 40:
Women under 40:
Men over 40:
Women over 40:
Men no longer with us:
Women no longer with us:
Thank you,
Bonnie Gabriel
